Japanese Tying Technique: Shibari Basics, Knots and Which Rope to Choose

The content of the article:
History and what is shibari
Shibari rope
Tying technique (knots)
- Shibari hands
- Shibari feet
Precautionary measures

History

Shibari (kinbaku) is the Japanese art of tying. Initially, the bondage had no sexual connotation. In the 16th century, ropes were used to restrict the movement of prisoners, and various patterns, intricate knots informed about the position of the one who binds, thus emphasizing status and superiority. After that, the prisoners were replaced by women, and shibari turned into art (appeared in theatrical scenes and smoothly flowed into the bedroom).

Shibari is not about "let me tie you up beautifully and we will have sex", it is a whole philosophy and ritual. The main goal is to demonstrate your dominant and supreme position over the second partner.

Various polls have shown that the secret dream of most people is to completely surrender to the power of a partner. Be subdued so as not to think about anything and let the other partner do whatever (as you agreed in advance). Remember, have you fantasized about this topic? Probably yes. Even Freud spoke about the desire to throw off responsibility for pleasure and "dirty" desires.

The Japanese bondage technique is more than just immobilizing a partner. This is a rite of complete trust in a person, a strong and amazing bond is established between partners. Thanks to this, the upper one creates all the conditions for the lower one to achieve complete harmony and satisfaction.

The amplifying factor is the appropriate atmosphere: dim lights, smells, candles, music. And, of course, the very effect of the ropes on the skin gives incredible sensations: with a properly conducted shibari, the lower one can plunge into a light trance, the sense of time is lost, the production of endorphins increases.

Shibari is an art form that requires complete involvement and attention, as well as a certain amount of skill. But, the shibari flowed into the bedroom for the reason that it is beautiful and exciting. You don't have to study history or be a real BDSM guy to try ropes in the bedroom. You can try a new sex game with ropes, which gives more variation and scenarios than handcuffs. A powerful psychological component will give a primitive feeling of dominance and submission, and light painful sensations from squeezing sharpen the senses.

Shibari is available to everyone, the main thing is, do not overdo it and adhere to safety measures (it will be discussed below).

It is also worth noting that shibari is popular all over the world today. Whole shibari festivals are held annually, where masters demonstrate their skills. If you get the opportunity to attend such an event, be sure to look at the miracles that happen with the rope.

Shibari rope

We figured out the meaning, it's time to start using the tool. Shibari needs a rope, which one? They differ in material (natural or synthetic), length (3-5 m or 8-10 m or more), type (braided or twisted).

If you are a beginner, then the following will suit you:

• rope made of synthetic material (soft and comfortable in the process, does not cause discomfort during tying). In sex shops, synthetic ropes are most often sold, they are not rigid and are designed for inexperienced users. Choose any color, the classic options are red or black;
• rope 5 m long allows you to fix hands or feet separately, rope 10 m - allows you to create a pattern on the body;
• rope with a diameter of 6-8 mm, it does not dig into the skin;
• rope handcuffs are a great option for those in doubt or for those who are trying to bond for the first time;
• ribbon. Yes, you won't be able to draw a picture, but you can try light binding without problems, a great new experience in the piggy bank.

If you are not a beginner, then the following will suit you:

• rope made of natural material (cotton, linen, hemp, jute and others). They look very atmospheric and impressive. These ropes are very stiff and not suitable for beginners;
• there may be several ropes in your collection. You will be able to empirically understand what you like best: braided or twisted ropes. After all, this is a matter of taste, someone likes wickerwork: they look interesting on the body and create their own pattern. Someone twisted, because it is more pleasant to the skin and practically does not leave red marks. Both natural and synthetic ropes have their pros and cons. Natural - they have tighter knots, they are pleasant to the skin, but require careful maintenance after play. Synthetic - have a sliding effect, so they are not as strong, but it is not critical, easier to wash and store;
• if you are a professional with a capital letter, then in your arsenal there may also be LED strips and even garlands for festivals or professional photo sessions.

Binding technique

After we have chosen the rope, we can proceed to the strapping itself. There are no strict rules in shibari - this is an art, so there is no correct technique, turn on your own imagination, and you can also be inspired by YouTube videos for a start.

In tying, posture, aesthetics and safety are important.

It is important to fix the body with light squeezing, but at the same time not to squeeze the arteries, therefore, it is worth considering the anatomy of the body so as not to get chafing on the body or limb leakage.

Binding basics

Shibari hands. The classical method with a stirrup knot, a reliable and simple method, does not tighten on its own. Fold the rope in half and grasp the hands, tighten the loop. The rope will press your palms tightly together, but without pain. The ends are tied with a simple knot, or several, without overlaps. In this way, you can tie your arms in front, arms behind your back, or only one wrist separately.

Shibari feet. Leg-knee. It starts with tying the rope to the ankle with a stirrup knot, then the leg is bent and the lower leg is pressed as much as possible to the thigh. After this, the rope is wrapped around the ankle and thigh, can be girdled with a beautiful pattern, ends with a simple knot. This fixation is great for the frog pose, when the partner lies with their legs wide apart.

Tie. We proceed to the strapping of the chest and torso. This is the starting element with which the "clothing" is created on the body. Bras, patterns and pentagrams that accentuate the breasts. The rope is put on the neck and forms a free loop, there should be a gap between the rope and the neck, at least the thickness of the hand, so that the partner is comfortable. Then tie the loop with a simple knot (which is not tightened) or a tie knot, the flight of your imagination is not limited, create patterns and straps above or under the chest. A very popular variant of the "star", instructions can be found on the Internet.

Hands behind your back. In this fixation, it is the hands that become the canvas, start with a tie, then turn it over behind your back. The brushes are fixed with the familiar "stirrup" loop alternately. Finish the construction with a knot.

As you can see, the above elements are simple and safe, and beginners can easily cope with them. Above is a step-by-step guide on how to get started and where to move on. With the help of our recommendations, you will know exactly how to tie a girl for sex. Then you will move from simple to complex, practicing and practicing again, you will master the technique of shibari, find the necessary and favorite shibari knots and designs. Relying on your feelings and that of your partner is essential on the path to a safe and beautiful shibari.

How and where to practice?

Shibari needs comfortable conditions, as well as a spare time without haste. Most often, a flat surface is used for shibari: a bed (but not too soft) or a floor (with a soft carpet). The room should have an average temperature, if it is too cold, then the whole process can hardly be called pleasant.

Precautionary measures:

1. Before the shibari, collect the necessary things: scissors (to cut the rope in an emergency), a first aid kit (if you need medical help), a blanket (to throw on your partner after the game) and a small supply of food (after the game it would be nice to have a snack).
2. For shibari, you need a good mood and state of mind. Do not drink alcohol and / or other sensation enhancers.
3. The most common injury in shibari is nerve damage. It is also dangerous to pinch the vessels. If a person has vascular or nerve problems, it is best to give up the practice of shibari.

These zones require special attention:

- neck, be careful in this area, leave sufficient clearance
- avoid brachial plexus, radial nerve and femoral artery.

There should be a gap of 1-1.5 fingers between the rope and the body, this is a comfortable state for the body.
Also contraindications to shibari include asthma, diabetes and blood pressure problems.

Communication between partners is very important in shibari. You discuss in advance what will happen and then stick to this plan. It is also important for the lower partner (the one who is being tied) to give feedback: what position is comfortable, what degree of fixation, whether there is pain. You can not leave the lower tied one, also after the session it is important to be close to your partner.

Shibari is a subtle and very soulful philosophy. Restrict your partner's movements, take complete control by decorating his naked body with amazing patterns ... Be sure to try the art of bondage in your bedroom, this can be the beginning of a new page in your sex life.