The More the Merrier! Are You Ready to Try a Threesome?

Threesome sex is a sexual fantasy for many and fantasies can come true if you put in the effort to make them real. Couples in long term relationships or open relationships may be the first to consider a threesome but more casual arrangements are also possible as are formal relationships between three or more people. The intensity of a threesome can give an incredible sexual and emotional release, it can turn your sex life upside down or take it to the next level.

It’s worth noting that threesomes might not be right for all couples. When considering a 3some, couples must rely on a lot of love and trust. Any unresolved problems in your sex life or relationship should be addressed before a threesome is considered. In this case, if all parties' wishes and desires are considered, the experience is likely to go really well. A threesome will not help cement a marriage or improve a rocky relationship, on the contrary, any problems that were being ignored before will be brought to the surface.

Why threesome sex?

There are moments in the life of a couple when sex can become routine and boring. Partners know each other inside and out, know where the erogenous zones are, know how sex will start, where the partner will put their hands, and how it will end, you’ve tried all the positions, and have a sex box with toys. It’s time for a new source of excitement and dopamine. Here comes the desire to add another partner into the mix.

A legal way to explore and get a big rush without cheating. The stars can converge in different ways: it can be a mutual fantasy - then everything is simpler, or the fantasy of one of the partners. When you communicate in a relationship everything is easier in sex. You get the best results if you are open and sincere in sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner. You need to know that it’s impossible to build a high-quality sex life with reproaches, persuasions, and ultimatums. If a partner agrees to something under pressure, then most likely they will not enjoy themselves and may become resentful. Films with a threesome sex scenario or watching porn together on this topic will not change someone who is not interested, you can’t program a partner for your desire. But you can openly and honestly talk about what you want to try and why.

It’s worth noting that you need to find the right time for this conversation. It also takes a certain amount of courage to open up to a sexual partner. After such an intimate conversation, two potential outcomes await you: refusal or time to think.

In fact, the topic of sex is all about the details and each person has their own unique interests and turn-ons. No one can act as a judge or impose their opinion. A couple is a closed ecosystem, during sex you can do whatever you both consent to. When you’re comfortable with just the two of you, a threesome shakes things up and adds another person in. Give an unsure partner time to think over the many details and nuances before they answer. Accepting and appreciating a “no” is something that we all must accept.

MMF or FFM or XXX?

Who will be the third? Female, male, trans, or non binary? If we talk about naked statistics, then men often fantasize about the classic FFM. If we talk about this most popular scenario, then two women and a man are what you see the most in porn and popular culture. In considering a threesome from the very beginning you should discard thoughts of jealousy. The third partner enters the bed not as a person who wants to destroy the relationship, but rather to give a new pleasure and excitement, and to fulfil their fantasy as well!

Many couples, after verbal consent, face a long search for a suitable third. Both of you must find the new person attractive, and an energetic connection should also be established among all parties. Today, there are several ways to find a third: dating apps or adult parties (kinky parties). It’s not recommended to look for this person among close friends of the individual partners, despite a friendly connection, after threesome sex the relationship can change. Take care of your own safety and health, it’s the best practice to ask about STI testing and safer sex protocol, as well as provide your own test before things start to get hot and heavy.

Threesome sex: pros and cons?

Pros: Enjoy a unique experience of self-discovery and enchanting pleasure, the ability to look at a partner from a different angle (literally!). It can be a real reboot for your sex life, the fulfillment of a secret sex fantasy brings renewed energy and excitment.

Cons: Alternatively, a threesome can destroy a relationship, if things don’t go well and jealousy or insecurity arises, the attraction and affection that arose during sex with a third can spill over into a new love and break apart a relationship that wasn’t ready to explore these boundaries.

A threesome will change your relationship for better or for worse. The decision to have a threesome shouldn’t be taken lightly; it's a difficult question that cannot be answered unambiguously and accurately. Each individual and partnership needs to consider what’s best for them. Be sure to take into account all these considerations and what’s best for YOUR relationship. If an opportunity presents itself, communication is on point, and the stars aline go with the flow and enjoy the ride.

Best regards, Gvibe.